Operation: Complete

It has taken me a while to sit down and write this final post. It felt a bit daunting to sum it all up and to close the book.

I’ll start with some updates:

I got covid on New Years and it just didn’t feel right to write about this epic beautiful trip while sick. I also couldn’t believe I successfully traveled the entire country without contracting it only to return home and get sick. The only upside was that I was able to finally commit to (binge) watching Yellowstone from my sickbed. I am frequently asked which stops were my favorite and Montana is always part of my answer to that question which is immediately followed by, “Have you seen Yellowstone?!”  Thanks to omicron, I can now say yes.

Celebrating a friend’s wedding in January

Another question I was frequently asked was if I was lonely on the trip and my answer was always, “I am alone but I’m not lonely.” The answer to this question shifted when I returned home. It has been hard to be staying in the middle of nowhere aka my hometown and not in Boston. Although so many of my friends are married now and raising kids in the suburbs there are, atleast, restaurants and bars whereas the only places within 30 minutes of me are chains like TGIFridays and Outback. 

It has been hard to be so close and not see people. With omicron hitting Massachusetts as hard as it did, it was also reminiscent of the loneliness I felt during the first year of the pandemic, of being right up the street but unable to visit with anyone. 

Reflections:

I felt so purposeful throughout my trip. I had a story. I was heady with pride. My ego was basking in the admiration I received. If I am being honest, it has been hard to lose that purpose that has come with completion. 

This trip taught me that I am capable and strong. That I am independent and fierce…and a total badass. It taught me that I can sit with anxiety in moments I don’t want to show up. I can do things even if anxiety is present. I keep thinking back to visiting the top of the Space Needle in Seattle and being engulfed with fear and panic to the point that my legs were weak and my body was shaking but I decided to try moving forward anyways and gave myself permission to stop at any point, if I needed… but I ended up showing myself that I can handle pushing to my growth edge. 

This trip also showed me the power of old friendships and connections. I am wildly thankful (to the point of tears) to the friends who prioritized me and shifted their lives to welcome me in throughout this year.

My stand out moments:

Throwing a softball around in Charleston with a childhood friend

Connecting with friends & falling in love with the soul of Asheville 

Running around the Lake Michigan & facing my demons in Chicago

Montana magic & my first mountain sunsets

Edmonds, WA with old & new friends

Greenlake swims after hot runs in Seattle

Falling in love with mountains…especially Mt. Rainier

Trail running

CALIFORNIA!!

Seeing the Golden Gate Bridge and bursting into happy tears

San Diego sunshine and sunsets

So what comes next?

One thing that has surprised me most since being back is, as much of a homebody as I can be, I have not had any desire to find an apartment here and unpack my things (not even my books).

My plan for 2022 is to return to some of my favorite places and see if I feel pulled to settle in any of them.

I am also not sure how I fit here in Massachusetts anymore.  Most of my friends are in long term relationships and are starting families; friendships, understandably, no longer feel like the priority. Traveling has given me a place where I do fit and a path that feels like my purpose, my destiny. 

Itinerary:

April: Charleston

May-June (about 6 weeks): Asheville (which includes a weekend entrepreneurial conference in Nashville with a friend)

June- July (4-6 weeks): Montana (my mom and sister are hoping to come out while I am there)

August: the Pacific Northwest for some more time in Seattle and for a friend’s wedding in Oregon

Then: Who knows? Back to San Diego or maybe Denver? Maybe I will head back home to make a more concrete plan for the future?

I may blog and I may not. I am going to see which way the universe pulls me. Benny may not be with me on part or all of this trip; as chill as he is as a copilot he has had some anxiety show up in other areas.

I am forever grateful for everyone who spent a moment reading this blog, whether you followed the whole journey, parts of it, or one specific location.

I have felt loved, supported and held up by each of you.

With love, Lacey

Final Trip Count

15,487 miles

29 States Driven Through

21 AirBnBs

16 Home Office Spaces

7 Terrible Manicures

4 Time Zones

4 Hotels

4 National parks (The Everglades, Mt. Rainier, Redwood National and State Parks, Grand Canyon)

It’s good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.

~Hemingway

3 Babysitter Reunions

2 Lost earrings

2 Lost Socks

1 Pair of Lost Sneakers


Austin…wasn’t that weird

First things first, Texas is where Benny was rescued from. The woman who runs the rescue in Maine brings animals up from overcrowded shelters in Texas and finds them homes in New England.  Of course I had to talk to Benny all about his humble beginnings before traveling the country in style. 

After arriving on a Saturday I went for a shakeout run the next morning after spending 11 hours in the car the day before.  On my run a bird pooped on my shoulder and if you remember from when I was pooped on leaving Wisconsin, this is a semi-regular occurrence for me, that I’ve been told is good luck; bring it on Austin. 

After my run I grabbed a delicious iced coffee at Summer Moon Coffee which became a staple for me as I enjoyed their famous moon milk in both the Autumn Moon latte and then the Gingerbread latte once December hit. 

It was a beautiful 85 degree day and not knowing how many of those I would get in the winter I headed to Barton Springs pool which is filled completely with water from the nearby natural springs. It’s a massive pool with a rock bottom that ranges in depth with beautiful clear water. The water stays between 67-70 degrees year round so it’s guaranteed to be refreshing.  I spent my afternoon soaking up the sun, swimming, and watching a guy perform epic flips off the diving board.  

The highlight of my time at Barton Springs was diving for the first time in probably a decade.  Most public swimming pools max out around 5 feet in depth and prohibit diving. One side of the pool is 5ft and one is 8ft (which is where diving is allowed).  I was a bit worried I’d forgotten how but as soon as my fingertips parted the water I was right back to my childhood.  I got out and dove in a few times with a smile etched across my face. 

The next evening I went on a 5 mile run along the river that connects to Zilker Park where Barton Springs is and then jumped in the pool to cool off after.  

Austin is amazing for running and walking.  My favorite place to run was around the river and Lady Bird Lake which is a 10 mile trail with multiple bridges to choose shorter loops.  There are multiple docks and boardwalks with a trail but also a view of the city. 

For one of my quality runs I went to the Austin high school track which is conveniently right on the running trail along the lake.  Not only was the workout difficult and frustrating but so were the oblivious self absorbed high school students who kept meandering across the track or kicking soccer balls in front of me. 

I also went to Mount Bonnell for a view of Lake Austin and downtown but it’s honestly barely worth the drive. I thought I would be hiking but it’s more of a relatively short staircase that leads to a lookout.  

Mayfield Nature Preserve is right near Mount Bonnell so I also stopped there to walk a mile long tail while checking out the peacocks.

Lastly, I walked the Barton Hill Green Belt which is very rocky, therefore, perfect for a hike but I would hesitate to run even though I saw several people doing so. 

On my first Sunday I went to a farmers market and noticed everyone passing me was holding these amazing looking drinks in plastic containers that look like restaurant storage pints; the long line was worth the citrus smashed strawberry blueberry lemonade I got.  

Unfortunately, my second week I got a head cold and felt pretty awful.  Although my covid test came back negative I still missed several days of possible exploring due to feeling so terrible. 

Once I felt up to exploring again I went to the highly recommended Book People and Waterloo Records.  

I also went to several staple shops including Uncommon Objects antique store, Take Heart, Feathers vintage, South Congress Books, and Allen’s Boots. 

In between exploring stores I went to Central Machine Works Brewery for a very (delicious) autumnal drink that was made up of smoked applewood vodka, le verger calvados, apple pear shrub, and lemon. 

I also went to Velvet Taco which is a casual taco place that’s a step above a fast food place, vibe-wise, for fun and interesting tacos including a shrimp and grits taco and a bacon cheeseburger taco.  

In preparing for Thanksgiving I got all the necessary ingredients at the original Whole Foods Headquarters and luckily was able to borrow a Pyrex and a pie dish from my AirBnB host who’s dog walkers let me in to grab the dishes and ended up inviting me to their vegan gluten free Thanksgiving and being all around awesome people. 

For a couple weeks a friendly carpenter was working on projects at the house I was staying at and when we were talking about Thanksgiving he even offered to deep fry my turkey for me if I wanted to bring it over the morning of. 

I decided to run a Turkey Trot the morning of Thanksgiving which was my first road race in several years.  The route was through a beautiful golf course that required a bussed start because there wasn’t parking near the course.  Bussed starts suck for my anxiety.  I hate not having my car as an escape option and I had a panic attack after running the Charleston Bridge Run back in 2010 which had a bussed finish. 

Of course I mapped out how far my car was parked from the start in case I needed to walk back without the bus. 

The race ended up going well.  I felt strong after coming back from my injury and I am used to freezing cold turkey trots in New England so running in shorts was an absolute treat. 

After my race I went back to my AirBnB to cook my first ever Thanksgiving meal.  While I’ve made Thanksgiving sides plenty of times, I’ve never cooked a turkey.  After using a dry brine I put it in the oven and hoped for the best.  

I made a dairy free gluten free green bean casserole that came out delicious and then made mashed potatoes and sweet potatoes.  My gluten free gravy didn’t thicken as planned but tasted fine.

The Turkey took much longer than I calculated because the meat thermometer wasn’t indicating it was done which resulted in a pretty dry turkey that Benny enjoyed more than I did.  Regardless of how it turned out, I am proud of my efforts and learned some important lessons for next time I cook these items. 

A childhood friend from church relocated to Austin several years ago and we were able to get together several times during my stay.  I initially met up with Rachel, her husband Derek, and they’re adorable 3 month old daughter Maple at Last Stand Brewing.  Their friend Keely also stopped by and we all had the best time catching up and hanging out. 

Rachel, Maple, and I went to Cosmic Coffee later in my trip.  Cosmic Coffee is a mostly outdoor venue where there is a large area of picnic tables with a stream and small waterfalls adding to the ambiance.  There are also several food trucks parked around the space offering a variety of choices.  We opted for coffee and breakfast tacos which were all delicious.

On my last weekend in town I met up with Rachel again along with Derek and Maple and their absolutely amazing group of friends.  We spent the afternoon at Desert Door Distillery celebrating one of their friend’s birthdays.  

Desert Door distills the Sotol plant which is local and sustainable and tastes similar to tequila.  They make fun craft drinks that are delicious. 

A friend recommended Lichas Cantina which is a delicious Mexican inspired restaurant with amazing food and drinks. I tried their Mexico ‘76 which is my new favorite drink that is made up of  tequila, grapefruit juice, and sparkling rosé served up.  I enjoyed a gluten free quesadilla for my dinner which is not a common allergy friendly find.

After finishing my dinner I went to Whislers which is a gothic cocktail bar right up the street.  The drinks were amazing but it definitely had a more party vibe which wasn’t as conducive to being there alone; they had tables only and no actual seats at the bar but I would absolutely go back with the friends. 

During my last week I went to the famous Rainey Street which is a block of small houses made into bars that are dichotomous to the surrounding city.  It is another party vibe that would probably be more fun with a group for a Sunday funday or an evening out but I enjoyed my ginger paloma at Half Step before heading back to Licha’s for a Mexico ‘76 and a quesadilla.  

I was relaxing and reading at the bar when the girl next to me asked what I was reading and we got talking about our shared love of true crime (I’ve met some many new friends on this trip due to a shared love of true crime).  Ashley is an avid traveler from El Paso who is in graduate school in Austin. We talked about both our experiences living in New York City and her plans to live in Europe after she graduates. 

On my last Friday in town I went to Mozart’s Coffee  after work which is a beautiful spot with a ton of decks right on Lake Travis. I got some work done before heading off to find a fun spot for happy hour. 

Most of the Lake side bars were all closed for private holiday events so I drove back closer to the city to go to Clark’s Oyster Bar which was my favorite place in Austin.  

They have an extensive cocktail menu and my favorite was the Clark’s Winter Pimms Cup which is made up of pimms, gin, amari pasubio, rosemary, lemon, grapefruit tincture, and topo chico.  

While enjoying some oysters I met Christopher from Charlotte, NC who was also enjoying a round of oysters.  We hit it off and talked for what seemed like hours over espresso martinis. He is in the film industry and travels for work.  We exchanged numbers and talked about getting dinner Sunday or Monday. 

I went to San Antonio to see the Alamo and the Riverwalk that Sunday after changing plans around to be able to meet up with Rachel that Saturday. 

I was surprised to see the Alamo right in the middle of the downtown area of the city.  I took a few pictures but didn’t pay for the tour; I couldn’t wait to see the riverwalk. 

The riverwalk feels like a city underneath the city.  I got a ticket for one of the river boat tours and had an amazing time learning all about the history of San Antonio from the boat captain, Diamond, who was only 17 years old.  She pointed out the bridge where a scene from the movie Selena was filmed, a hotel that used to be a hospital, art sculptures gifted from foreign cities, and how the Bubba Gump Shrimp Company restaurant used to be the city morgue.  Fun fact: I worked at the Bubba Gump in Times Square when I lived in New York. 

After the boat tour I wandered around and stopped to have a snack and a drink at a table right on the edge of the river. 

Try as I might to get a picture of myself that I liked I just couldn’t.  I was having a tough body image day and could only see my flaws in each photo I took.

When I received a text from Christopher to grab dinner that evening I told him I was too tired to make it which was definitely impacted by how I was feeling about myself that day which snowballs sometimes after being single for so long and questioning if it’s because I don’t have the body I had 5 years ago.

I asked Christopher if we could do Monday night instead and he seemed agreeable but also said he wasn’t sure what his work schedule would look like. 

On Monday I checked in and he said he thought he’d be done around “sunset” which was 5:30.  I finished work at 5 so I skipped my run and got ready to meet up (curled my hair, fixed my makeup, and picked an outfit).  By 6:30 I still hadn’t heard anything from him so I warmed up something to eat for dinner.  When I still hadn’t heard anything by 9pm I washed my face and put on leggings. 

He finally texted after 10pm to say “things got crazy” and that he would be around the next night if I was.

I was frustrated that he didn’t send a text to say he was running behind far earlier than he did.  I didn’t respond to his text and didn’t plan to until he texted again the following day to ask if I had dinner plans.

I shook off my annoyance from the night before and chalked it up to miscommunication around definitive plans and didn’t want to overreact so I told him when I’d be done with work and that I would be open to grabbing dinner.  He said he had two hours left until he was done which would be a little before 8pm.

After confirming that would work for me I went about my evening of finishing up seeing clients.  I ate when I finished and decided to wait to take any steps towards getting ready until I heard from him…which I didn’t… until 9:30pm when he texted to say the crew wanted to take him out for his last night in the city. 

Again, why couldn’t he have texted to provide a respectful update? Am I expecting too much here?

Regardless, I didn’t respond to that or his text the next day about how it was nice to meet and that he was sorry it didn’t work out for us to get together. 

To round out my time in Austin, I finally got a reservation at Odd Duck.  This restaurant is so popular even the bar seats require a reservation.

I enjoyed the seared scallop entree and when I was still hungry after the modest portion I then got the mushroom chorizo tostada appetizer.  While the food was delicious I have to say it wasn’t worth the hype and the impossible reservations. 

I did hit it off with the bartender who was planning to move to Jemez Springs, NM to then explore the southwest for his own epic adventure and a couple next to me with tons of restaurant recommendations.  

On my last day, after packing up my car for the 30 hour drive back to New England, I went to Bouldin Creek Cafe for an amazing dairy free gluten free lunch of chips and queso and a Smokin Joe’s tofu omelet with chipotle pecan pesto. 

Albuquerque: Red, Green, or Christmas?

On my way from Scottsdale to Albuquerque I drove through Gallup, NM which was extra special because it was one of my sisters first travel nursing assignments and it is where she fell in love with the southwest. 

I got off at the Gallup exit and drove by the small hospital where she saved lives in the emergency room.  It was really meaningful to see the place she’s talked about so many times. 

I also got to see literal tumbleweed rolling by as I drove through the desert. 

Albuquerque may be my least favorite stop on my trip.  My mom warned me as we caught up on my drive that she read about the high crime rate in the city.  Apparently Albuquerque has an exorbitant violent crime rate; approximately 300 times higher than most of the country.  Throughout my time there I heard over and over from locals about the crime and about being careful in my neighborhood, not running in certain places, and not walking around at night.

For a bit of comparison, Boston has twice as many people as Albuquerque in a much smaller space and in the 3 weeks I was in Abq there was one homicide in Boston and there were 11 in Albuquerque in that same time frame. 

I spent most of my time in Albuquerque not sleeping well and worried about my safety which is unlike me.  I’ve lived in some tough areas in Boston and New York City. I feel comfortable living alone, and feel like I’m a streetwise person but reading about the history of crime, racial inequalities, gang wars, and road rage violence left me feeling uncertain. 

I was initially running in Roosevelt Park and then several people told me it was too dangerous.  I was told the only safe place to run in my neighborhood was on the University of New Mexico campus but even running there, on one run I saw 3 different blood spots on the sidewalks. 

Now for more about my adventures…

New Mexico is known for their hatch chili peppers.  At most restaurants they will ask, “Do you want red, green, or Christmas?”  They are asking if you want red chili peppers, green chili peppers, or a mix of both.  They also make large bunches of red chili peppers that they hang throughout towns and on their homes. 

On my first Friday afternoon in town I went to hike/walk the Bosque Loop Trail which runs along the Rio Grande.  It was cool to see the river, even if it was more mud than water this time of year.  The trail was beautiful with the cottonwood trees changing to a bright orange yellow hue with the Sandia Mountains in the background. 

Later that Friday evening I went to Copper Lounge cocktail bar for a cosmo and to write my Arizona blog.  It is a speakeasy craft cocktail bar with an attached tequila bar with the best vibes.  I ordered some delicious nachos while The Beastie Boys No Sleep Till Brooklyn played over the speakers reminding me of my field hockey days where we would blast Brass Monkey while practicing drills. 

On Saturday morning I woke up and headed north to Santa Fe and fell in love.  I got a pumpkin spice latte at 35• North Coffee and then sat in the plaza people watching. I also played the song, Santa Fe, from the musical Rent throughout my entire day there.

While I was sitting in the square a wedding party was paraded by led by a mariachi band.  There was also a man playing music who played Ring Around the Rosie once several children gathered around to dance. 

After enjoying my latte in the plaza I went to the Institute of American Indian Arts to view their Exposure: Native Art and Political Ecology exhibit.  The exhibit showcases Native American artists’  “responses to the impacts of nuclear testing, nuclear accidents, and uranium mining on Native peoples and the environment”.  It was powerful to witness. 

After exploring the museum I walked around and went to the recommended Sante Fe Vintage Outpost until I worked up an appetite and went to the Compound Restaurant for minestrone soup and rosé at their old fashion sunken bar within the historic Adobe structure. 

I then went back to the plaza and came across a Native American man selling handmade turquoise rings.  He explained that to sell in the plaza artists have to prove they are at least ¼ indigenous and some committee must witness them making their craft from start to finish. While I am so glad I can be certain my money went directly to an indigenous man I also wonder what part white supremacy plays in this process and to whom he has to prove his indigenousness to. 

For the afternoon I stopped at Modern General Cafe and then sat outside at Vignette for a glass of  rosé and kale caesar salad on their fall vibes patio before going to Canyon Road to explore all the art galleries. 

Before leaving town I went to Radish & Rye for an R+R Mule with vodka instead of their recommended bourbon because, well, gluten.  It was quite possibly the best mule I’ve ever had. 

I also loved sitting at the bar watching the bartender (from LA) make their manhattans on the rocks by smoking the bourbon with vanilla pipe tobacco. 

While sitting at the bar I met a wonderful couple from Louisiana and another couple from Albuquerque.  The couple from Albuquerque warned me of my unsafe neighborhood and told me their son had been carjacked at gunpoint (read: increased terror). 

Sunday morning, back in Abq, I went to find coffee but I didn’t feel safe parking or getting out of my car. I drove around downtown hoping to find better, safer, vibes with no luck. 

I went back home to regroup and then went back out to explore Sawmill Market which is an open market with several food places.  There wasn’t much in regards to gluten free options except a bunless hot dog and fried potatoes. I also grabbed a Sandia black cherry cider while I ate my lunch on the patio.  

My dad has a high school friend who happens to live in Albuquerque.  I’d never met her but he connected us and I met up with Marielle and her husband, Gregg, in Old Town then went to dinner at High Noon.

When Gregg ordered his dinner the server asked, “Red, green, or Christmas?”  I thought they might be referring to the color of the corn chips but Gregg clarified that they were asking which color chili peppers he wanted (red, green, or both).  New Mexico is the chili capital of the world.   Gregg let me know that it is actually a trick question because depending on the year red or green could be the hotter chili. 

We had so much to talk about as Marielle has been a lifelong traveler, and she and Gregg also travel a lot together including everything from scenic motorcycle rides to explore the US to making a 100+ mile walking pilgrimage to Camino de Santiago in Spain (they’e also done the route through Portugal.)

We talked about how Marielle had studied theology, published books, and also attended psychic school while in graduate school, and their individual journeys with Transcendental Meditation. 

They also love visiting haunted hotels, restaurants, and places, and going on ghost tours. Yes, High Noon is known to have some paranormal activity.  I think my sister and Marielle would have so much fun if they ever met. 

Marielle also told me about why so many of the homes in New Mexico have blue doors and doorways. The indigenous tribes in New Mexico are known as Pueblo People and the Pueblo People believe that blue doors keep evil spirits away.

Marielle checked in with me several times throughout the rest of my time in Abq and offered tons of amazing local recommendations.

The next morning I took the astonishingly beautiful ride to Jemez Springs in search of hot springs.  Unfortunately, I couldn’t find the hot springs as I hiked into a canyon in the middle of nowhere and I didn’t have any service to try and reevaluate the trail. It was a bummer and made for a much longer drive to my next destination of Santa Fe.  

As I drove from Jemez Springs to Santa Fe I had to stop at a checkpoint where they checked my ID and then strictly advised me not to take pictures or right hand turns for the next mile… where the hell was I?

Apparently I was driving through Los Alamos which is the laboratory where the atomic bomb was created. 

I revisited Santa Fe to check out Meow Wolf which is “unique, immersive art installations with multimedia elements and a mysterious narrative throughout.” Picture a combination of an art gallery and Escape Room.  I would love to go back someday with a group of people to talk through the evidence with. 

On a beautiful, sunny afternoon I went to Petroglyph National Monument to hike the The Volcanoes Trail loop. The loop traverses three volcanoes known as “the sisters.” It was remarkable to see the volcanic rock and reminded me that my sister had brought back volcanic rocks from one of her New Mexico hikes.

I had myself a day one Thursday when I wrapped up work early.  I hopped around Albuquerque from Bike in Coffee to Bow & Arrow Brewery, which is the first Native American women owned brewery, to Vara Winery and Distillery for delicious dry wine.

I spoke with the couple next to me, Valerie and her husband.  Valerie served in the US navy for many years (thank you, Valerie) and she can’t wait to relocate to the east coast. 

I love hearing from people all over the country about wanting to be on the east coast or in NYC because growing up there the dream was always to go west to California, to Denver, to Seattle.  I’ve also loved the other side of the coin where people ask me, “How do you know which is north/south/east/west without mountains?  I couldn’t live there.” I laugh and tell them I don’t know how to tell the direction without the ocean.

The bartender at Vara, Melissa, was amazing and sold me on checking out Still Spirits cocktail bar which had mixed reviews… I wasn’t disappointed. 

Still Spirits is all about the drinks, no beer, no wine, no food, no bullshit.  The drinks were delicious- I loved the tres flores which is a blend of hibiscus vodka, elderflower, rosé water, lemon, and honey.  I also talked to the two young bartenders about my trip and their lives in New Mexico. 

After Still Spirits I had to go back to Copper Lounge for cosmos and nachos.  I also happened to leave my number for the sexy bald bartender who took care of me both times I was there.  Spoiler alert: he never called. 

That Saturday afternoon I went to Marble Brewery.  I grabbed some delicious vegan french fry/nachos from a food truck (they asked me, “Red, green, or Christmas?” and thanks to Gregg I knew what they were talking about. 

There was an amazing Mexican band playing at Marble that I absolutely enjoyed listening to over my food and seltzer while watching couples salsa dance.  There were also several groups of people celebrating Dia de los Muertos (the Day of the Dead) which is a Mexican celebration of souls that have passed on. 

One of my old roommates lived in El Paso, Texas for an internship and she had told me she used to go to this town full of hot springs in New Mexico with a unique name, Truth or Consequences, and from then on it’s been on my bucket list.

The town was originally called Hot Springs, NM but the people renamed it Truth or Consequences in 1950 after a radio show announced a contest where the winner would be the first town to rename itself after the radio show.

I started my day at Riverbend Hot Springs which has resort style hot spring tubs on the Rio Grande.  I reserved a private soaking tub and laid back and relaxed for an hour.

After my soak, I went to The Grapevine Bistro, as recommended by the couple from Radish & Rye, for breakfast.  Mario, the owner, greeted me as I came in and then came to the patio to talk to me while he ate an egg sandwich and I ate gluten free pancakes and his special maple chipotle bacon (absolutely amazing combination, trust me). He talked proudly of his children and the colleges they attended and asked about my trip. Mario had switched careers to be a restaurant owner and told me how much he loved it.  

Unfortunately, many of the places on my list to see in T or C were permanently closed including Black Cat Books and Coffee, Turtleneck Oasis Natural Market, and Latitude 33.  

New Mexico has been under strict lockdown for all of the pandemic, they still have a mask mandate and occupancy limits which has resulted in the closure of many businesses in a state that already has a high poverty rate. 

T or C Brewery was also closed, for a staff appreciation event, and Xochi’s Bookstore and Gallery was closed on Sundays. 

I did find the adorable Passion Pie Cafe and had a delicious iced pumpkin latte and a gluten free peanut butter cookie.  The cafe itself is still not allowing customers inside and is taking orders at the door. 

On my way out of town, after taking some fun pictures, I drove by Elephant Butte (pronounced beaut) reservoir where the roads are all dirt and there are more single wides than houses.  

I went back to Old Town Abq to see it in the daylight and there was a small car show which my dad would have loved.  I also walked by a man playing saxophone with a Patriots hat on who I stopped to speak with and learned that he was originally from Cambridge, MA. 

In the plaza I was able to watch a Native American man perform a traditional dance which was beautiful and something my sister spoke of as a wonderful experience she was able to have during her time in New Mexico.

On my last Thursday afternoon I ate lunch at The Grove Cafe and Market which has a line around the block every weekend.  I got avocado toast with smoked salmon and a mimosa and sat on the beautiful glass patio area. 

After lunch I went to Mama’s Minerals to explore and get a few Christmas gifts.  They have a massive selection of minerals, fossils, and rocks. 

On my last night I went to LVL 5 rooftop bar for cocktails, dinner, and an epic sunset.  The sunset was to the west and the Sandia Mountains to the east.  As the sun sets the mountains turn a remarkable color of pink. I knew the mountains were called the Sandias which is the Spanish word for watermelon but I didn’t know why until the woman next to me at LVL 5 told me it was because at sunset the mountains turn pink like the color of watermelon. 

As beautiful as the views were on my last night, I was very ready to move on from this complex and precarious city.

To quote the lyrics from a Miranda Lambert song, 

“Highway Vagabonds, living like hippies

Moving right along to the next big city.

Okay, jump off the exit

Truck stop,

Rest stop,

Next stop Texas…”

Scottsdale (Pt. 2)

During my time in Scottsdale I was mesmerized by the quintessential Saguaro cactus; it was amazing to not only see a few of them but forests of them. 

Due to my cactus fascination I went to the Desert Botanical Garden to walk around the myriad of cacti and learn about the indigenous tribes while drinking lemonade from my favorite lunch spot in Scottsdale.

The Original Chop Shop has amazing salads, wraps, smoothies, juices, and my fav. strawberry ginger lemonade.  I grabbed food here at least once each week as it came highly recommended by a friend who had just visited. 

Per usual, I attempted to find the best coffee in Scottsdale and I have to say I was unimpressed.  I tried Sip Coffee & Beer and Cartel and wasn’t a big fan of either.  My favorite was Dutch Bro.’s but it doesn’t have anything on Better Buzz (San Diego) or Frothy Monkey (Nashville).  I did, however, meet the sweetest girl in Scottsdale on my first Dutch Bro.’s visit.  She was wearing a Yankees hat (I forgave her) and is from the Carolina’s so we hit it off and talked about the South and my trip.  She helped me find a yummy (dairy free) iced coffee and we exchanged instagram names to keep in touch. 

I tried a few other restaurants including Montauk which I wouldn’t recommend- the service was pretty lacking and the watermelon Moscow mule was the worst I’ve ever had due to the cheap flavored vodka they used. 

After my quick visit to Montauk I went to Diego Pops which is a funky Mexican restaurant with a great bar and patio area.  I ate at the bar twice, once to watch a Thursday night Tampa Bay Bucs game and once to watch a Red Sox playoff game. 

I also had dinner at Olive and Ivy but the vibe and the food felt much more like a corporate chain than a fun independent restaurant.  I did meet a kind couple from St. Louis that I spoke to through most of dinner. 

Luckily I found a bar I really liked called Farm & Craft where not only do they have great food and drinks but I met extremely interesting people on each of my visits.  

On my first visit I started with one of their specialty drinks The Hydrator which is made of  44˚ north mountain huckleberry vodka (take me back to Montana), bols elderflower, coconut water, local honey, blueberries & prosecco- so yummy.  Then I ordered their gluten free lasagna (so exciting!!) and a glass of wine.

Two men sat down next to me and we eventually started talking about how none of us were from Scottsdale.  I told them about my trip and that I am from Boston.  I totally hit it off with Craig (the Scottsdale Scott from Denver, by way of Scotland and Boston) and Sheraton (who is from Denver by way of San Francisco and Fall River) – both with ties to Seattle. 

We talked about their families and Craig’s plans to hit some National Parks with his wife and children the following week.  Craig and I also bonded over both having lived in the Jamaica Plain neighborhood of Boston and our shared love of The Heaven Scottish bar.

They had the best questions about my trip including “Who is the most interesting person [I’ve] met, so far?” Which, of course, was Dez from Daphne’s cocktail bar in Edmonds, WA (LAAAAAACEYYYYY!)  Although I had to promise Craig and Sheraton that, moving forward, if asked again who the most interesting person I’ve met is, I have to say them.

To round out a wonderful conversation we somehow determined that both Craig and I know the capitals for all 50 US states.  We went back and forth asking each other states while Sheraton laughed in astonishment.  

We wrapped things up by sharing all of our shared love of British Procedural crime shows before making a plan to meet the following morning to hike.

Surprise, surprise, I tossed and turned all night with anxiety about hiking in the heat and sent a text that morning blaming my cancellation on a migraine. 

To my surprise Craig texted me later to say he hoped I was doing ok and that he read a bit of my blog.  He told me his young son has anxiety, too, and asked if I had any suggestions which I shared the best I could. 

The second time I went to Farm & Craft I walked into a scene.  There were 3 girls from a bachelorette party who were extremely drunk and belligerent.  They were yelling at the bartenders, “take your shirt off!” and refusing to pay their tab until the other bartender gave them his number.  At one point the bride was standing next to one of the other guys at the bar and he had to get up and move to a different chair while he told her how rude she was being.

Finally, the bride was asked to leave but kept yelling from the sidewalk just outside the perimeter of the patio, “I can’t go there because I’m OFFENSIVE!”  

Unfortunately, one of her friends who was drunk and annoying but not officially kicked out kept coming back in to bother all of us at the bar including two guys from Texas. She was lifting their drinks and trying to force them to take sips, almost spilling all over them. 

At one point she finally left and the 5 of us who had been making eye contact all lifted our glasses to “cheers” her leaving.  She eventually came back one last time. 

The 5 of us kept joking throughout our respective dinners and I found out the two guys at the end live near Austin and we exchanged contact information so we can try to get together when I’m there in a few weeks.

Needless to say, Farm & Table had great food and (mostly) great guests; the service isn’t amazing but it’s worth checking it out. 

Benny was living his best life in Scottdale. The AirBnB had a patio that was closed off so he was able to stay out there on his own chasing geccos all day. On one particular day while I was in a virtual session with a client I saw Benny come running into the dining room… and he wasn’t alone. He was chasing a small gecco around the table I was sitting at. I was distracted so I apologized to my client and let them know my cat had a lizard and I needed a moment to grab it. I stood up but paused because how in the world do you get a lizard out of the house?? I grabbed a papertowel to pick it up with but of course I couldn’t squish it like a bug and I didn’t want to put it in the trash can in case it was still alive and came climbing back out so I put him outside of the front door. As I was walking back in I noticed something moving on the floor and as I got closer I saw that it was the gecco’s tail….and it was still moving. Horrified, I threw it away before trying to pretend everything was ok as I sat back down to finish my client’s session. The next time I left the condo the lizard was gone and I am hoping that means the poor little thing survived and is growing a new tail as we speak.

 

The very best part of Scottsdale, for me, was seeing a few amazing people from home.  

First up was a family church friend, Jen, who was also a favorite childhood babysitter.  If you’re counting, Jen is the third amazing babysitter reunion of the trip.  I feel so lucky to have had these awesome role models as a kid turn into friends in adulthood. It’s even more wonderful to see how amazing they are as moms… even though it’s no surprise. 

I went to Jen’s and met her wonderful family including her husband and her three adorable, thoughtful, fun kids. Jen had set up her backyard with hay bales, pumpkins, and a fire pit for s’mores.  We caught up after not seeing each other for over 20 years and then two families joined the pumpkin painting s’more party. 

After a wonderful evening we made plans to hang out again later in the week to soak up more time together and her sweet daughter, Alice, made a friendship bracelet to take with me.  

If you’re counting friendship bracelets, this is bracelet number two; my first being from Cami in Montana.  I’ve been sending Camryn and Caden postcards since leaving Montana and I told Alice I’d send her some postcards from my next stops, too. As  a kid, and let’s be honest, as an adult, I love getting and sending cards to family and friends.  

Next up was my friend Heather.  She moved to Upton from Arizona when we were in 8th grade and we played field hockey together.  Her sister played varsity softball when I was on JV.  We had a little overlap in school and she’s good friends with my friend Jessie who I saw in Charleston. 

Heather and I have stayed in touch by liking each other’s social media posts and sending a message occasionally, regardless, I knew she lived in Phoenix and I was excited she agreed to meet up. 

We met at Postino Wine Bar to catch up and split some gluten free bruschetta; bruschetta is to Arizona what charcuterie is to Boston (read: amazing).

Heather and I ended up having so much to talk about and our time flew by; wonderful conversation with a wonderful person.  We both decided we needed to try and hang out again before I left for my next stop. 

A few nights later I went to Heather’s for dinner and got to meet her amazing family including her 4 kiddos, two of which are twin 4 year old girls. One of the twins, Ellie, was attached to me for the night which was adorable. 

After dinner Heather and I talked about everything from the hardships of adolescence to grief and loss to anxiety to heartbreaks.  As we were talking I told her about the lackluster tarot reading I had in Sedona.  

Heather then told me her mom’s best friend who is the “best psychic medium” happened to be in town visiting from Sedona.  She immediately called her mom who lives about a mile away and told her we were coming over. 

I then had an epic 2 hour long medium reading in the comfort of Heather’s mom’s living room by a woman, Melissa, who happened to be in town the same night I was visiting Heather; I’m calling this fate. 

Melissa connected with my great Auntie Diana, three of my grandfathers, and a friend I lost to suicide in 9th grade.  One of my grandfathers came through very strongly and she told me he was one of my spirit guides and that we had a soul connection and had known each other in other lives. He is my grandfather through marriage but I knew him my whole life.  He came through saying, “those girls are my real granddaughters” which was emotional to hear and wild because Melissa didn’t yet know that I have a sister. 

My friend from high school came through as an “old soul”; he said he’s around when I think of him and mentioned something about music.  Initially I thought he meant how I always picture him in one of the Pantera or Lynyrd Skynyrd band t-shirts he would always wear but after talking about the reading to my mom I realized he was probably referencing an actual song.

After he died, at his funeral service his sister read lyrics from the song “FreeBird” by Lynyrd Skynyrd which prompted many of his close friends to get memorial tattoos including those lyrics.  The song was also played at our senior prom to honor him.  It took years for me to be able to hear this song without being overcome with grief and guilt.  This has to be what he was talking about which actually makes me want to listen to the song, on my own volition, for the first time in 20 years.

Melissa saw me in the future with a daughter who looks like me; she told me to ask my spirit guides for clarity in my dreams in deciding to have children or not and I had randomly had a dream 2 nights prior about having a child.  She also saw a relationship with a man who is educated and travels and that we have a strong partnership.  She saw me moving – in the future and said she could see me in Asheville but also asked if I had any ties to Washington. 

One of the strongest takeaways from this experience was that she repeated several times throughout the reading, “You belong.”  I’ve never felt like I belong, I’ve always felt on the outskirts and like I have always been trying to fit in, trying to find a way to be comfortable with myself. 

On my last day in Scottsdale a friend from home happened to be in town for her cousin’s bachelorette party.

I’ve known Katrina since I hired her to work on my team in Dorchester several years ago.  We kept in touch as she moved up in the company in another location and when I had a spot open on a new team I was building I immediately recruited her for that.  She was by my side after I laid off 60% of our team during covid and as we rebuilt trust, processed the shock, and navigated social services needs during the worst days of the pandemic. Besides being colleagues I consider her a good friend.  

After a tearful reunion, we got coffee (I introduced her to Dusch Brothers) and caught up.  We then joined the larger group for brunch at RnR Gastropub.  The group was welcoming and fun.  After brunch Katrina and I went to lay by the pool at their AirBnB while the rest of the group went to the Desert Botanical Garden.

I am so grateful our time in such a random place overlapped and that we were able to spend this time together.

Finally, a quick running update before I wrap up this Arizona novel: I’m finally running again!  I’m doing my Monday runs and doing more than 5 minutes at a time and I’m back to doing my Wednesday speed workouts.  I’m feeling strong and excited to finally feel like I’m able to do this thing I love so much. I have to say the weather in Scottsdale is not ideal for running; there were several days where it was above 90 degrees and I used the treadmill in the condo complex gym (super thankful for that).  I have to say I’m looking forward to cooler temperatures in Albuquerque.  

On one of my runs I was listening to the Condé Nast podcast, Women Who Travel, with a guest who worked with Anthony Bourdain.  The two hosts and the guest talked about the challenges of traveling and the anxiety it can spark; they talked about feeling lonely and out of place at times while traveling and I couldn’t help but think, “I’m not alone?….!”  Why don’t more people talk about this?  Why does everyone make travel look easy and effortless? It really would have helped to know this before now. 

Scottsdale (Pt 1)

Leaving San Diego was hard. Each stop from this point on leads me closer to home and closer to the end of my trip; I guess we could say every single stop has led me closer to the end but I was making my way further across the country and timezones so it felt much different. 

Driving from San Diego to Scottsdale I drove by the Mexican Border.  It was emotional to see the tall black fence dissecting the windswept desert dunes.  Tears stung in the corners of my eyes as I thought about the privilege of having my toes in the sand on this side of the obscure fence and not the other. 

After driving hours through desolate sand and rocks the city of Phoenix appeared suddenly and forcefully out of the abyss. 

It was hot the entire time I was in Scottsdale with temperatures close to 90 most days.  My anxiety does not love excessive heat due to the combination of typical panic disorder fears combined with watching my dad get heat exhaustion after responding to a motor vehicle accident as a firefighter when I was a kid.  I had one of my first ever panic attacks the day after we took him to the hospital for this.  It also didn’t help that everyone kept telling me about how dangerous the heat in Arizona is.  

My Scottsdale Backyard & Running Trail

On my first Friday evening in town I went to WineGirl which is basically bachelorette Instagram heaven.  While I enjoyed some Brut Rosé Brut and a white wine flight I started talking to two women who came in and sat near me at the bar. Samantha was from Connecticut but lives in Scottsdale and Stephanie was visiting Scottsdale on business and lives near Austin (I’m going to make her hang out with me when I get to Texas). 

As we were talking about my plans to hike while in Scottsdale they mentioned the heat and being sure to bring water on hikes and to go as early as possible.  They also told me a wild story about how a woman came to Scottsdale to meet a guy she met on a dating app; they went on a hike without water and she turned back before him and wandered into someone’s backyard and died of dehydration and heat stroke. This was quite possibly the least helpful story I could have heard.

I set my alarm for 5 o’clock the next morning to get an early start heading to the Grand Canyon but I just couldn’t do it.  I was so anxious about the heat that it took me 4 hours to convince myself to get out of bed.  After much debate I convinced myself I would regret not seeing it and that even if I drive there to see it and come right back it would be worth it; so off I (finally) went.  

I have to manage my anxiety when driving in the middle of nowhere.  I get anxious about needing help and being far from help, this worsens when I don’t have cellphone service.  Anxiety can creep in with the most wild thoughts. For example, on my way to the Grand Canyon I grabbed some seafood salad and had several thoughts about how I will be the person who gets a seafood allergy out of the blue and dies stranded without help in the middle of the Arizona desert as my throat closes.  I’m pretty good at managing these thoughts but that doesn’t mean my body doesn’t react on it’s own. I have found that acupressure really helps this. 

When I arrived at Grand Canyon National park I took a right hoping to find parking and to then find the canyon but almost immediately after making the turn the Grand Canyon materialized to my left and I burst into tears.  It was magnificent and gorgeous and awe-inspiring and I hadn’t even gotten out of the car.  

I parked easily and walked over to the paved path along the South Rim while tears streamed down my face.  The 4 hours to convince myself to go, the 4 hour drive there, and the 4 hour drive back (yes, I forwent my Airbnb and drove all the way back the same day) were 100% worth it to see this once in a lifetime view. 

After spending some time at the canyon I headed to the visitor center because, while my seafood salad did not cause a random unlikely allergic reaction I did find out that it had gluten in it (yes, all the tuna salad, seafood salad and chicken salad I found in AZ had breadcrumbs…?) so I was hungry and lightheaded which is something I avoid at all costs to prevent unnecessary anxiety. 

Thank the canyon gods, they had sandwiches with gluten free bread at the visitors center.

After pausing for sustenance, I continued exploring which included slamming on my breaks for an elk who decided to stop while crossing the road and seeing a herd of wild horses.  After spending a short period of time enamored with the view I drove back to Scottsdale.

The next weekend I made plans to go to Sedona and Flagstaff and had truly been looking forward to anxiety free hiking in the cooler high altitude weather.

The afternoon before I left for Sedona I was in the pool at the condo complex and a group of women on a bachelorette party came in.  A friendly older man started talking to them about their extensive hiking plans and of course he started telling them that it’s so dry in Sedona you have to excessively hydrate to hike because “it sucks the water right out of you.” 

Cue anxiety voice snickering. 

Driving into Sedona the view was epic perfection, deep forest green vegetation and rust red dirt spanning as far as the eye can see with massive mesas rising out of the earth.  

First up, Indian Gardens Cafe & Market. This was my first stop after arriving to grab some lunch.  It is a whole food (yay gluten free bread!) market place/deli/cafe.  I ordered a sandwich of hot turkey, Fresno mayo, fontina, tomato jam, pickled onions with a side of potato salad and a mason jar of fresh apple cider.  I sat and ate my lunch in a beautiful courtyard with water fountains, greenery, and adorable blankets for guests to use, as needed.  The locals were taking advantage of the blankets while my New England ass was in a tank top and sandals- it was like 70 degrees!

Sedona is known for its vortexes which are “swirling centers of energy that are conducive to healing, meditation, and self exploration.” The energy can be entering into the earth or projecting away from it.  The vortexes are usually places to hike to.

After my delicious lunch I went to hike the Airport Mesa trail which is a vortex location. The trail circumvents the large hill that the small airport is on top of.  I parked and hiked down the hill to the mesa (a mesa is a hill or ridge with a flat top like a table).  

After climbing to the top I sat alongside the other meditative folks feeling the vortex vibes. Even though it was overcast the view was incredible. 

After hiking back to my car I went to Crystal Magic to explore the most extensive healing arts store I’ve ever been to. 

The AirBnB I rented was a room in a large beautiful home hosted by a kind and welcoming woman. After checking in and changing out of my hiking clothes I went and walked around downtown before heading to dinner.  

Mariposa is a highly recommended Latin restaurant for anyone who finds themselves in Sedona.  It is by reservation only but luckily I got a seat at the bar.  I sat down next to the absolute best group of 2 couples from California, Michael, and his wife, and their friends.  Michael and I immediately hit it off talking about books and travel and life and singing… and everything. Anyone who’s first question to get to know me is “what book are you currently reading?” is my kind of person.  

His wife and I bonded over our love of The Goldfinch and when I mentioned I stayed a few nights in the tiny (almost nonexistent) town of Hornbrook, CA she couldn’t believe I had stayed in her hometown.  Unfortunately they were heading out soon after I got there because I could have talked to them all night.  I’m also still waiting for them to introduce me to their 34 year old single son. 

The bartender, Raymond, was super attractive (read: Mark Ruffalo and Trevor Noah had a love child); I was hoping to hit it off with him but when I asked him what his favorite thing about living in Sedona was his answer was about how excited he is that his kids get to go to school without masks. What? Let me get this straight, you live in one of the most beautiful places in the world and when a tourist asks what you love about it that’s your answer? Thank you, next. 

One fun fact that Raymond did provide is that no one is born in Sedona (unless they’re born in a living room) because the hospital is basically an urgent care and there’s no labor and delivery.  

After Michael and his group left, a woman, Nicole, and her mother sat down next to me.  We bonded over our shared love of oysters, true crime, cats, and our therapists. We exchanged information to stay in touch. 

After a fitful sleep at my Airbnb I went to Local Juicery for amazing breakfast food; I ordered the Myke smoothie and avocado toast after much debate because there are so many amazing items to choose from. 

While I was sitting outside I noticed a conflict of some sort occurring between a younger man who had been sitting outside since I arrived and an older man who arrived later.  I looked over and heard the younger man say, “Can I share transparently that that didn’t make me feel good.”  The older man responded for a few minutes with an air of authority and possibly condescension.  The younger man interrupted him, “Again, I’m going to say that didn’t make me feel good in my body.” 

He was calm and thoughtful in each response and I found it inspiring. How often do we push down and silence ourselves when someone is disrespectful, unkind, or hurtful? Maybe the next generation is figuring out a way to not do that anymore, maybe they’re building a world where young men can softly say, “that doesn’t feel good in my body when you speak to me that way.”

After breakfast I went to hike Soldiers Pass.  The trailhead is about a mile from the overcrowded parking areas and there are signs marking it as one hour parking.  I walked as quickly as possibly to the trailhead to give myself time to hike before having to head back to my car.  At the beginning of the hike I met 2 women from the Midwest who asked me about the Patriots/Tampa Bay game the previous Sunday.  While we were helping each other take pictures by a canyon we heard and then saw a mountain biker slamming on his brakes and sliding away from almost riding directly over the side and into the canyon. 

His friends caught up and none of them seemed to be shocked or concerned about this near death canyon fall we almost witnessed; the 2 girls and I were still trying to get our bearings back while all looking at each other with what the hell just happened faces. 

After my hike I went to Tlaquepaque which is a collection of shops in a beautiful setting where the stucco, artistic tiles, archways, verandas, gates, and cobblestone pathways feel like a traditional Mexican village. I walked around and explored several shops including a book/record store that houses several original works of art by Dr. Suess.  I also stopped at The Chai Spot which is a traditional Indian tea house with a large porch and a few small verandas. 

After finishing my tea, I went back to the Airport Mesa hike to experience it again in the sunshine with clearer views of the rusty mesas rising out of the desert for miles. 

With Sedona being known for vortexes, healing energy, and holistic arts I had to get a tarot card reading while I was there.  After fighting some traffic I arrived for my appointment just in time. 

In my fifteen minute session I was able to ask 3 questions? First, “What’s next?” She told me she saw change and a move and that I would have security and prosperity, and make new connections with the move. 

Second, “Love?” She said I have to heal past traumas before finding a relationship. She also said that in past relationships I was giving more than my partners (which is certainly true).

I can’t think of many comments about my single status that piss me off more than ones about fixing or finding myself first.  How is it that so many people find their partners before they’re whole and fixed and ready but I have to wait?  Second of all, even if I don’t find my person until later, why can’t I have a great 2 year relationship with Mr. We Don’t Grow Together, We Grow Apart just to not be alone year after year, holiday after holiday?

Finally, my last question, “Children?” She said I must feel safe and secure before I could have a child.  This makes sense because my anxiety is a huge piece of my hesitation.  She also called out my confusion around making this decision.  She added that it must be the right partner which confused me a bit because I’ve been seriously considering having a child on my own, without a partner.

After my unsettling reading I went to Shorebird for rosé and oysters.  This is the restaurant I heard Nicole talking about when she sat down next to me at the bar the night before and I have to say the oysters were every bit as good as she described. 

Once I finished up at Shorebird it was time to head up to Flagstaff.  After I dropped my things off at my Airbnb which was another bedroom/bathroom in a family home, I headed to the downtown area to wander and explore. 

Flagstaff reminded me very much of Asheville; it’s another eclectic hippy (mask wearing) mountain town, so obviously I fell in love.  At 7,000 feet of elevation and crispy cool air I was finally able to (breathlessly) break in the Dr. Martins I bought in San Francisco.  

The Main Street of America, Route 66, runs straight through the center of Flagstaff.  Due to my dad being the car guy he is, I was aware of the significance of seeing this historic highway. While I explored all the cute shops I had to grab my dad some fun Route 66 things as Christmas presents (shh… don’t tell him). 

Throughout the afternoon I had been managing a client in crisis including multiple phone calls and as soon as I sat down at the cutest little wine bar I got a call from the psychiatrist at the emergency room my client was taken to.  After speaking with him and then being yelled at and hung up on by my client I went back to reclaim my seat at the bar. 

If you are ever in Flagstaff, you must go to FLG Terroir wine bar.  It’s a loft space with exposed brick, a wall of shelves filled with curated wine bottles; board games, amazing food, and great vibes.  I sat and enjoyed a couple glasses of Tablas Creek Mourvèdre and some butternut squash rotolo while talking to the wine buyer.

For the second night in a row, I tossed and turned all night.  I could feel the elevation and maybe it’s hard for me to sleep in a stranger’s home.  I opened the window to let in the cool mountain air and listened to the distant sounds of someone singing and playing acoustic guitar. 

I woke up early and went to hike a route recommended by the Airbnb host.  There’s a path that starts right down the street from the Airbnb that leads to Buffalo Park which is a nature preserve on top of a mesa.  I walked the 3 mile trail on the lookout for bison.  Truth be told, I’ve been waiting to see bison throughout this trip.  I searched for them in Colorado, thought I’d see them in Montana, and then tried to find them in Arizona… Here’s hoping I get lucky in Texas. 

After my idyllic walk I had some disappointing vegan eggs benedict at Morning Glory, a mediocre coffee from Macy’s, and found out that not one of the many recommended breweries have ciders or anything gluten free. 

I decided it was time to head back to the low desert heat of Scottsdale after an amazing weekend in the high desert.

{Hella} Sunny San Diego (Pt. 2)

As you know, I’ve been on dating apps during my trip but nothing has worked out and not only have dates not happened, I got stood up in Montana.  While I was in San Diego I went on my first date since covid (since November 2019 but who’s counting!?).  I met up with him at Park and Rec in University Heights which is a cute bar with a Spanish style patio area and super yummy craft cocktails.  He was nice and all but we didn’t really hit it off.  He bought my drinks and walked me to my car like a gentleman but I think we both knew there wouldn’t be any follow up.  It was a little awkward but not a waste of my time- it felt good to get back out there. 

On another perfect day in paradise, in OB I went back to Wonderland for a drink or two and got excited to learn they would be broadcasting the Patriots’ game that Sunday morning (at 10 am because… pacific time).  I talked to the bartender and she ended up buying one of my drinks which was sweet and unexpected. 

On my second to last Saturday I went to a 3 hour workshop with Chi-running.  I am desperate to heal my injury and then stay injury free.  My badass instructor, Lisa, was a college sprinter and then worked for Cal fire for her entire career and retired as captain- I told you, badass. She taught me the Chi-running philosophy and I’ve been working on my posture, using gravity to my advantage, and leading with my dan tien.  Lisa is coming to Boston for a running conference in January and we are hoping to get together.

That Saturday evening I went to Ketch Grill and Tap in Shelter Island which is on a harbor in San Diego Bay.  I took a seat at the bar and tried to relax but was experiencing a lot of anxiety.  It caught me off guard because my anxiety felt pretty good while in San Diego and anything that came up passed quickly.  I sat watching the Padres/Giants game calmly letting myself know if I was too anxious to eat I could order food to go and go home to eat instead.  I was able to relax and have a delicious Macadamia crusted mahi with coconut risotto.  It seems like maybe, just maybe, the anxiety is getting easier to ride out. 

The next day was my last Sunday and I had a tough choice to make: go to the beach bar to watch the Patriots’ game OR go to a nude beach in La Jolla.  After much internal debate, I chose the beach because I can watch the Pats game any old Sunday but this might be my only nude beach opportunity.  

After taking at least 15 minutes to choose a bathing suit I might take off, because bad body image days (weeks/months) are real, I headed to La Jolla.  

Arriving at Torrey Pines State Park I knew from Yelp that there was a steep hike down to Black’s Beach.  I grabbed my chair and my Better Buzz latte and made my way down the 322 steps to the beach. 

I had been amping myself up all morning to take my bathing suit top off on this nude beach however, that all changed when the only people who were naked were old men in larger bodies.  I didn’t want to be the only female with boobs out on the beach and I didn’t want to be the only female with boobs out on the beach who has 35 year old boobs and is sitting next to a group of five 20 year olds and I also didn’t want to be the only 35 year old female with her boobs out next to two 30ish year old guys I could hear fat shaming some of their friends who weren’t present or the several groups who took too many pictures of the beach to feel comfortable and then hell if I was going to be the only 35 year old female on the beach with her boobs out next to the young family of three.

Needless to say, I never took my top off, all the while the men were all peacocking around wearing only sun hats.  It was like, not only did the men not give a second thought to taking their bathing suits off, but they also absolutely had to be standing up and walking the beach at all times- they were not there to starfish on a towel and get a tan without lines. 

After a couple hours I went to explore La Jolla.  I went to La Jolla cove and saw dozens of sea lions and seals; they were all snuggling in pig piles sunning on the beach and the rocks.  It was the first time I’ve actually seen them up close and it was truly magical. 

After finally pulling myself away from the seals I went to The Cove to get a burger and sit at their outdoor bar watching the second round of Sunday football games.

During my last week I went to Verbatim books which was close to the Golden Hill neighborhood I was staying in.  It is a huge eclectic bookstore with all of the windows wide open because, as mentioned many times, San Diego weather is heaven on earth.  

On Wednesday after work I went to Liberty Station which is an old naval training institute built in 1923.  The barracks were built in the Spanish Colonial Revival style.  The area is now full of bars, restaurants, shops, dozens of artist showrooms, and beautiful courtyards. 

I went to Stone Brewing which has the largest outdoor courtyard space I’ve ever seen at a brewery.  I sat at a zen bar that was created around a raised pond full of lily pads and a raised charcoal fire pit.  I ate some tacos and enjoyed a glass of red wine with the best view in the whole place. 

On my last Thursday I met back up with Jenna at Ketch; the first time when I went alone I sat at the bar and so returning with a friend we were able to sit outside on the porch overlooking the yacht harbor.  

I made Jenna tell me every detail of Kelsey’s wedding and her subsequent day trips all over New England to get my fill of home.  I truly wish I could have gone to the wedding and I wish I could have been honest with Jenna about why I wasn’t going.

I’ve missed so many life events for friends because of my anxiety: a friend’s wedding in Puerto Rico, another friend’s bachelorette party in Austin, visiting Kels in San Diego and then her wedding, too.  I don’t want anxiety to run my life anymore.  I truly believe this trip is helping and I also know I will need to do some work around flying.  I hope to do my own exposure work with that when I am back in Boston. 

Back to my last week in San Diego…  I went to Old Town on Friday afternoon and wandered around the historic buildings where the first European colonists settled in California.  The Kumeyaay Tribe originally lived in the area now known as San Diego but they retreated to the hills once the Spaniards arrived and started setting up the Missions to convert indigenous people to Christianity. 

The historic buildings and spaces were interesting but I couldn’t help but feel uneasy about the history of the soil I was standing on.  It is set up like Old Sturbridge Village and most of the people working there, many of whom are Hispanic, are all dressed in old fashioned outfits like the Colonizers would have forced them into wearing.

I enjoyed walking around because I knew my sister had visited San Diego for Comic Con several years ago and brought back a tiny green sugar skull for me.  I felt connected to her even though we are an entire country apart. 

About 30 minutes into my visit the sky opened up and it began pouring rain, thundering, and lightning.  I hadn’t seen rain since my first week in Seattle 4 months ago.  The locals hadn’t seen rain in over a year.  

I decided instead of running across the open courtyard in the rain and lightning I would sit down to have a margarita at the restaurant I was standing next to.  I sat on the outdoor covered patio while lightning cracked overhead and watched as all the locals wrapped themselves in large trash bags to both walk to their cars and sit at the restaurant. 

I started talking with a couple from San Bernardino and they quickly invited me to sit with them at their table.  It rains so infrequently that as we were talking about how close the storm was I realized they had never heard of counting between the lightning and the thunder to guess how far away a storm is.  We talked a lot about sports and traveling and once the rain let up we said our goodbyes.  They were so kind and offered to connect me to a friend in Austin and they paid for my drink.

After leaving Old Town I went to OB to walk around. There were tons of surfers out enjoying the storm surge.

On my last day in San Diego, a Saturday, I went to Coronado Island which is a resort city across the bay.  The majority of the island is an active Naval air station.  The houses and neighborhoods are beautiful and I wish I had gone a few more times to walk around.  

The island is known for their beautiful beaches and the Hotel del Coronado. I started my day at the beach but it was a bit overcast from the rainstorm the day before so I headed to my next stop after about an hour.

The fancy Hotel del Coronado was built in 1888 and consists of multiple buildings and private bungalows (which are actually large houses) with their own private pools.  There are multiple restaurants, bars, and cafes.  

I went to Babcock and Story which is a restaurant with a huge outdoor patio and a bar that opens onto it.  I sat and drank a fancy Bees Knees cocktail because it came in a martini glass and I wanted to be a little fancy even though I was in a bathing suit and beach coverup with no makeup and a bit salty/sandy/stinky.  I relaxed and watched the Red Sox lose to the Yankees in the top of the 8th.  Even with the loss it was a great way to end my stay in San Diego.

Lastly, I can’t talk about my time in San Diego without talking about Mackey and Ollie.  Mackey is an older man who was staying in one of the units in the placeI was also staying in; Ollie is his adorable Maltese puppy.  

We ran into each other in the yard all the time and would talk while I loved on Ollie.  Mackey is from Florida but is staying in San Diego near his daughter while he takes care of some health problems. 

He is the kindest man and I loved speaking with him.  He told me many times he didn’t know what he’d do without Ollie.  It was hard to see him on the days he wasn’t feeling well.  I could tell he was weak and unstable on his feet where usually he’s out and about walking with Ollie.  

As my time in San Diego was coming to an end, I was sad to think of leaving; it was also hard to say goodbye to Mackey knowing I’d never see or talk to him again.  I left him and Ollie a card on their door as I left on Sunday morning; I will wonder how they are doing for the rest of my trip.

{Hella} Sunny San Diego (Pt. 1)

A short backstory, my good friend and old roommate, Kelsey, lived in San Diego for 2 years before moving back to New Hampshire.  I never got out to visit her because my anxiety about flying that far was paralyzing.  I felt so much shame about not being able to visit her.  My friend Aliess, who I saw in Portland and also lived with Kelsey and I, offered to fly to Boston from Oregon to help me fly out to San Diego and I still couldn’t do it.  Making it to San Diego meant so much to me, even if Kelsey is no longer there. 

San Diego is a dream. The weather is so perfect it’s unbelievable.  How often do we bond, gripe, and commiserate (yes, I googled “All the Small Things” for the correct spelling of commiserate- if you know, you know) over the weather? Use it to identify when an experience took place? Check to make sure we dress in comfortable clothing? The level of perfection almost bordered on unsettling… almost.

I took advantage of all of the sunshine, especially with the amazing Airbnb I was in. The backyard had a hot tub, grilling area, gas fireplace, and massive avocado tree. I spent most nights in the hot tub and did all of my strength workouts outdoors. 

I was still rehabbing my calf injury and could only walk or run/walk while I was there but I explored several places on my walks including Pacific Beach boardwalk, Ocean Beach, Sunset Cliffs, and Mission Bay.  I took my first ever dip in the Pacific Ocean after one of my run/walks. 

I tried to check off as many things on my itinerary including bouncing around the Gaslamp District while people pregamed before heading to watch the Padres play, walking around the harborside shops at Seaport Village, and trying as many taco places as I could including Mike’s Taco Club and La Playa. 

I explored Pacific Beach, which the locals call PB not to be confused with Ocean Beach which they call OB; I walked along the boardwalk at PB several times, swam in the ocean, and watched surfers and dolphins from the cliffs.  

One Saturday I went to the highly recommended Ironside Oyster Bar in Little Italy.  The space has a great vibe, funky decor with lots of plants and a massive black and white tile floor.  The bar seats are in pairs and swing out from a pole attached to the floor.  As soon as I sat down the two guys to my right struck up a conversation.  One looked like a puffy David Spade and the other was wearing several chunky skull rings and gave off an Ed Hardy vibe.  They were nice enough and explained the difference between PB and OB.  PB is young college kid vibes and OB is hippy drum circle vibes, good to know. 

A handsome guy sat down to my left in the chair that was connected to mine.  We made a joke about the chairs swinging (the guys to my right made a joke about how this new guy was probably from OB which I think they meant as a diss) and I shifted my attention to the new guy on my left.

We talked for a bit over craft yet somehow also kitschy cocktails (his came in a shark mug).  He went to law school at Northeastern in Boston and was originally from Texas.  We hit it off and he asked for my number and said we should hang out in La Jolla (pronounced La Hoy-ah) while I was in town.  As he was saying goodbye and leaning in for a hug I was repeating in my head don’t say it, don’t say it but out came “See you in La Holla,” *damnit* “I mean La Jolla”. 

Spoiler alert: he never called. 

My friend Kelsey connected me with a wonderful friend she made while living in San Diego, Jenna, and we made plans to explore OB which is where Kelsey lived when she was in San Diego.  

Jenna and I met up at Dog Beach and walked around where her and Kelsey’s dogs used to play and then walked down the alley to see Kelsey’s old beach bungalow.  It was really special to see these places even if I didn’t make it while she was still there. 

Jenna and I bounced around exploring some OB staples including Nova for delicious kombucha and Kilowatt Brewing for seltzer’s because, well, gluten.  Jenna then introduced me to the most fun pastime ever- electric scooters.  

We downloaded the app, she gave me a quick tutorial, and off we went to another part of OB to try Little Lion Cafe.  Unfortunately, they were closing so we didn’t get to stay but this just meant getting back on the marvelous scooters and heading to Sunset Cliffs. 

Sunset cliffs are the most epically beautiful oceanside cliffs I have ever seen.  We walked around, watched the surfers in the water, and she pointed out the cliff where Kelsey and her fiancé Ben got married the year before. 

We scooted back to town and went to Raglan, a New Zealand restaurant, for Moscow Mules and sliders.  We finished our Sunday Funday at Wonderland overlooking the pier and the ocean with palomas in hand. 

Hanging out with Jenna all day was the perfect antidote to the homesickness I didn’t even realize I was feeling.  It felt like hanging out with an old friend.

Jenna and I parted ways and made plans to hang out when she was back from her trip to New Hampshire, yes, New Hampshire.  Kelsey and Ben happened to be having the reception for their cancelled 2020 wedding during the exact time I was across the country in the city I could never visit them in.  I was across the country too anxious to book a flight to attend their wedding.  It was coincidental and felt a bit cruel on the universe’s part, regardless, I made a new friend who could tell me all the details when she returned. 

The next weekend I met up with Amber who I had originally met in Santa Barbara.  We met at her favorite wine bar in Little Italy, Vina Carta, and we sat outside enjoying a bottle.  A male friend from her gym stopped by and hung out with us.  

The three of us then went to Herb and Wood which had a cool evening bar crowd.  After that we went to Wolfies Carousel Bar which happened to be on my list of places to check out.  The vibe was much more Myrtle Beach nightclub with food than the fancy New Orleans Carousel Bar I was expecting.  We hadn’t been there 5 minutes before Amber and the gym friend were making out.  I was feeling every bit the third wheel so I excused myself to the bathroom and then made a gloriously successful Irish Exit.  I found the nearest scooter and laughed the whole time I was scooting home, hair whipping out behind me. 

I fell in love with a coffee place, Better Buzz, while in San Diego.  They have a cool beehive vibe in their cafes and their coffees and açaí bowls are amazing.  I couldn’t stop going and getting their Snickerdoodle Latte iced with half the sweetness, because I want it to taste like coffee.  I highly recommend checking them out. 

On one of my visits to Better Buzz a bubbly cashier asked me what I was doing the rest of the day and I told her I was debating going to the beach or watching the Patriots’ game. She said, “Why can’t you watch the game on your phone on the beach?” I laughed and told her that’s a great idea which she followed up with “I’m Gen Z,-so you know I think of these things.”  I immediately felt like an old lady and then I saw that it was also National Grandparents Day and I was apparently welcomed into that club as an Elder Millennial. 

I ended up going to Sunset Cliffs to enjoy my coffee in the sunshine before going home to grill some food for the game.  I walked by a man, Blair, in the back of his pickup truck listening to the Chargers game on the radio. We talked about sports for about 10 minutes which was fun. He used to play for the Raiders for a season. 

When I was walking back on the way out he was listening to the Dodgers/Padres and suggested I check out Dodgers stadium while in Southern California. I told him I wasn’t comfortable in a full stadium due to covid and he proceeded to tell me covid was a “hoax” caused by Bill Gates… and that 9/11 was a hoax, too (it was 9/12).  I told him my mom works in a nursing home where 19 people died in one weekend and she had to call their families so we weren’t going to agree on that covid being fake. He again told me to look up some Bill Gates video about the government planting the flu virus in nursing homes… sure, Blair, thanks (heavy eye roll).

When I got home I cooked fajitas on the grill but couldn’t get the Pats game because it was “blacked out.” I got in the hot tub instead and then went back to Sunset Cliffs for the actual sunset. 

Three sunsets in, I feel like a pattern has developed of people imposing on my sunset enjoyment.  Case in point: when in Oregon with Beth Ann and Robert, as soon as we settled on the beach with a clear view, a loud family of 10 with kids came and played in the water directly in front of us on a beach otherwise deserted (we rolled with it, no big deal), cut to: Santa Monica where I got settled on a relatively sparse beach to watch the sunset over the pier and a young couple came and sat directly in front of me and smoked a joint while barely paying attention to the sunset (I had to stand up and walk a few feet over to get all the pictures I took), and now in San Diego…. I got to Sunset Cliffs an hour before sunset and set up a blanket on a small outcrop about 3 feet wide.  I listened to a guided meditation and relaxed. At exactly sunset 5 teenage girls came onto my tiny outcrop and stood over me while taking no less than 50 pictures. I finally got up, packed up my things, and let them know how rude it was to take over such a small space for such a long period without even acknowledging my existence.  They were apologetic but I’m still waiting for that serene uninterrupted sunset.

California Coastin’

Driving the California coast in a Jeep Wrangler has been on my bucket list for a decade.  I’ve known for most of this trip I’d be able to make it happen between my stay in San Francisco and San Diego (minus the Wrangler and add a Benny). 

The first stop on my trip was Monterey.  I stayed in an Airbnb that was listed as a bed and breakfast.  While I knew I would be staying in someone’s home I ended up realizing it was not an ideal situation for me.  

My host was kind and welcoming but I felt very awkward being in her house; she was frequently on the phone having intense conversations, her dog had passed away earlier that week, and she was clearing her throat every 5 minutes the first night which made me worried she was sick or had COVID.  

I went to the highly recommended Monterey Fish House for dinner my first night.  There were hours worth of people waiting in the parking lot for a table… which I took to be a sign that it would be amazing.  Unfortunately, it was more of a fried fish and pasta place which I can’t do because of a gluten and dairy allergy.  My salmon was underwhelming and they were out of oysters. However, the team of servers and busboys were amazingly friendly, attentive, and thoughtful. 

The next morning I went to Tidal Coffee for a delicious latte and sat on a bench overlooking the bay while posting my San Fran blogs and calling my mom to vent and reset after an awful night’s sleep.  

I wandered around Monterey checking out the little beaches and shops along Cannery Row.  I got a ticket to the famous Monterey Aquarium for that afternoon and stopped for a wine tasting at Bargetto to pass some time.

I met a group friends from Fresno who did an adventure railroad that morning and were celebrating their accomplishment and a birthday. I met a woman who was on a weekend trip with her partner and we talked about my trip and how she lives about 5 hours north of Monterey and is a Massage therapist. The bartenders, Ethan and Dash, were amazing and entertaining.

After getting a little vacation buzz, I walked over to the Aquarium and listened to the My Favorite Murder podcast while checking out the fish. I was a bit underwhelmed because I’m used to the Ripley’s Aquarium in Myrtle Beach where you get to go through a water tunnel with huge sharks swimming all around you. 

My second day in Monterey I drove to Big Sur to see another symbolic bridge with an epic view.  Big Sur is more of a camping and hiking place than a town, which I didn’t realize.  I didn’t have any service and paid $6 per gallon for gas before going to the beautiful Nepenthe Restaurant which sits on the high cliffs overlooking the ocean. 

After Big Sur I went to Carmel-by-the-Sea and fell in love. The town is full of ivy-covered hobbit houses with archways and rounded wooden doors, cobblestone driveways and ocean views. 

I walked around Ocean Avenue which is the downtown area while checking out cute shops.  I stopped at Aw Shucks for oysters and Manhattan clam chowder while sitting outside people watching.

After my oysters and wine I sat at the beach and watched some surfers.  When I was getting in my car to leave, an older woman introduced herself to tell me; she was originally from Lexington, MA- I absolutely love when people with ties to home say hello. 

I had planned to stop at Hearst Castle on my way from Monterey to Santa Barbara but unfortunately it closed due to a road collapsing and is on the market to be sold.  I have heard it is a must see so I’ll have to do this coastal trip again in the future (twist my arm). 

I arrived in Santa Barbara to sunshine.. finally! San Fran is very foggy and cool in the summer and Monterey was similar.

I settled into my comfy and wonderful hotel room and went downtown to get dinner.  I sat at the bar at Opal’s and enjoyed an amazing seafood paella while making friends with everyone I could.  I met a woman who was also there alone and drinking chardonnay then an older couple then a young couple from the Little Italy area of San Diego who are going on a year long road trip next year.  They asked for general road trip recommendations and some for their upcoming 2 month stay in Boston.  We are going to try to get together when I’m in San Diego. 

The next day I took advantage of all the hotel amenities including the gym; I haven’t been in a gym since March of 2020 and it felt great to be back. I was able to use the Elliptical to workout while taking a 2 week break from running to hopefully heal this ongoing injury and use all the weights I wanted to on my strength day.  

After my workout I laid by pool all day and read and listened to My Favorite Murder podcast.  

Before heading to dinner I drove around the ocean and pier in Santa Barbara then went back to State Street for dinner at Finney’s. 

After dinner I went to a tasting at Municipal Winemakers which had a super fun twist on wines.  I enjoyed their unique chardonnay while sitting outside while the sun set.  If you’re ever in Santa Barbara I highly recommend checking them out.

While outside I started a conversation about the sunset with a woman with 2 dogs,  Amber.  She also lives in the Little Italy neighborhood in San Diego.  She introduced me to her dogs, Suki and Penny Dreadful and we hung out the rest of the night, talking about being single, travel, mental health, and living life to the fullest; we are planning to meet up in San Diego, too. 

I truly wish I stayed in Santa Barbara for 3 days and only did Monterey for 2 because I loved Santa Barbara so much. 

On my last day I got a coffee at Handle Bar and took a short walk on State street before heading to Santa Monica. 

The drive down the coast from Santa Barbara to Santa Monica was surreal- driving though Malibu and along beautiful cliffs and beaches was a dream. 

Some anxiety started to creep in as I got closer to my destination and then I arrived at the hotel and felt overwhelmed by the bellhop, valet, and fanciness.  The excessive attention felt more suffocating than helpful.  

I pushed through my anxiety and went to the courtyard to have a glass of wine and a hummus plate.  As I sat and ate I started to relax and it certainly helped that two songs that mean a lot to me came on while sitting there- a Kacey Musgraves song that reminds me of my sister and a Mumford song that reminds me of my good friend, Colleen.  It felt like the universe showing up and having my back and I was able to take some deep breaths and feel grateful. 

After finishing my snack I walked down to the beach; I put my feet in the freezing ocean and sat and marveled at the pier before heading back to the hotel for dinner.

I made sure to return to the beach to watch the beautiful sunset over the Pacific and behind the Santa Monica pier all while playing the old Savage Garden song, “Santa Monica” which inspired me to want to visit since first hearing it in middle school. 

The next morning I got another gym/elliptical workout in then grabbed coffee at Dogtown Coffee.  Coffee in hand with Yellow Card’s “Ocean Avenue” playing in my headphones I walked the mile to Venice beach.  It was amazing to see Muscle Beach, the shops, the skateboarders and roller skaters, and take in the boardwalk. 

I spent the rest of the afternoon laying at the pool and had a couple tropical drinks.  I was feeling pretty overwhelmed at how to choose one thing to see while in LA so I ended up avoiding the decision altogether.  I had really wanted to hike to the Hollywood sign but it was over an hour from my hotel. 

That evening I was set on not missing out on the LA experience so I drove my car around Beverly Hills, Rodeo Drive, the Hollywood Walk of Fame, and East LA.  It was amazing to see the famous Rodeo Drive that reminded me so much of the Mighty Ducks movie and then to drive in Beverly Hills while thinking about the Clueless movie.  I went back to the hotel to read over dinner and red wine. 

On my last day in LA I had planned to explore while passing time before check in at my San Diego AirBnB but the host contacted me to let me know the place was ready early.  Instead of aimlessly driving around LA with Benny, just to say I did, I headed to my next stop instead. 

On my drive to San Diego I hit a lot of traffic which I believe was due to a fire that started that afternoon near San Clemente.  It was wild and scary to see the large plumes of smoke in the distance and slowly lose visibility- it wasn’t ideal for my anxiety. 

I arrived in San Diego knowing I had just completed an epic road trip of a lifetime, and even if it was harder than I expected it was amazing to know I had done it.

Oh… and I had my first In-N-Out burger!

San Francisco Pt. 2 (FamBam)

I decided to split my San Francisco blog into two parts- one for weeks 1, 2, and 4 and one for the third week where my Mom and sister, Leeanne, visited… which is a trip within a trip.  

I didn’t grow up in a traveling family; we weren’t travelers for multiple reasons, the two largest being finances and my mom’s intense fear of flying.  

When I was little we would drive down the Cape and spend a week there each summer and then as an adolescent we started driving to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina every summer.

In my entire 34 years, my mom has probably flown 5 times, MAX, all on the east coast. Her decision to fly to California to see me is a brave, loving, once in a lifetime occurrence; she’s totally my hero. 

That being said, my mom and Leeanne faced their respective fears and motion sickness to arrive in San Francisco on a Friday evening after listening to San Francisco by Scott McKenzie, “If you’re going to San Francisco, be sure to wear some flowers in your hair” on repeat as they drove to Logan Airport. 

On their way!

On their first morning we walked the two blocks down to the cross section of Haight and Ashbury.  My beautiful mom had tears in her eyes as she saw this place that had existed in her teenage dreams that she wasn’t sure she would ever actually see.  

As soon as physically possible on their first day, I took them to see The Golden Gate Bridge.  I was so enthralled by it and had to share it with them.  As we drove over it I played the Full House theme song and we all cried at how amazing it was. 

We did ALL the tourist things while they were there including Fisherman’s Wharf and Pier 39, shopping on Haight Street, coffee and lunch in the Castro District, the Presidio, and Golden Gate Park.

My mom and I drank lots of coffee.  Each afternoon we tried a different place; we’d cheers and have our coffee happy hour because in my mom’s words, “It’s 8am somewhere.”

On one of our coffee trips I took my mom to see the Painted Ladies.  She obviously experienced my childhood obsession with Full House so seeing that strip of houses and the epic view behind them was really cool. 

Growing up, music was a huge part of our lives; whether we were listening to Queen records or We Sing Silly Songs cassettes- we were jamming.  Truth be told, one of our cars growing up didn’t have a working radio so when we were all in the car we would each take turns picking a song and then the 4 of us would sing it together. 

One of the songs we sang frequently was “This Land is Your Land.”  I grew up singing, “From the Gulf Stream waters to the Redwood Forest, from California to the New York island, this land was made for you and me.”  I’ve always known about these epic trees and that my mom would love to see them. 

A few days into their trip, we drove the four hours north to see The Redwoods.  We drove through miles of winding Northern California terrain until we arrived at Humboldt State Park where we hiked through the most beautiful forest along the Avenue of the Giants.  

After marveling at the trees we headed to our AirBnB.  We were exhausted so my mom and I went to grab some takeout.  We finally had enough service for me to play “This Land is Your Land.”  We put the song on repeat while we drove through the redwoods holding hands and crying in disbelief and gratitude.

After staying the night we got on the road to head back south with a plan to explore the wineries in Napa and Sonoma.  

My friend Beth Ann from Seattle has friends who own and operate the beautiful Tedeschi Winery.  She recommended I go while in the area and it did not disappoint.  We sat in adirondack chairs looking out at endless grapevines.  Beth Ann’s friends took amazing care of us and spent a generous amount of time talking with us.  It was a perfect experience. 

Unfortunately, our luck in Northern California shifts after leaving Tedeschi’s.  Apparently tastings in Napa and Sonoma book out days in advance and even though I called about 15 places while we drove we weren’t able to get into any of them.  Most vineyards are requiring reservations due to COVID and I was unprepared.  We did get to drive by a bunch of beautiful vineyards and can now say we’ve been to wine country. 

We stopped in Sausalito on our way back to San Francisco to have dinner on the bay looking at the city.  We sat outside eating seafood with an amazing view.

We happened to be heading back as the fog cleared from the skies so we made the quick decision to drive up to Battery Spencer which is one of the best places to look out at the Golden Gate Bridge.  The lookout is through a one way tunnel and high up on a cliff.  We got out at a few points to take pictures and take in the view.  It was remarkably windy and cold standing on the cliffs.

We noticed that in several parking lots there were many spaces with shattered glass from break-ins.  We decided to go to the last and best lookout in shifts to stay with the car.

Leeanne and I ran through the wild wind gusts while laughing and freezing to see the famous bridge below.  The clear view was worth waiting for.  

The next day we woke up early to catch a ferry to Alcatraz Island.  We had the best Uber driver from New York City who mentioned that you usually can’t get tickets for the tour the same week because they are so booked.  He told us a lot of tourists will accidentally book a ferry that just drives around the island but doesn’t actually include the tour… cue: panic that we booked the wrong tickets.

Luckily, our luck had shifted back and we had booked the right tickets.  We were at the front of the line for the 1130 ferry and due to extra room we were able to jump on the 11am ferry to get our trip started even sooner without having to wait in a line for 30 minutes- such good timing!

After a short boat ride with a beautiful view we got to Alcatraz which I kept accidentally calling 

“Azkaban” because I’m a diehard Harry Potter fan, sorry, not sorry. . 

My sister is a highly sensitive person and she and my mom love watching paranormal shows together.  Leeanne was excited to see the cell blocks because they are known to be the most haunted places on the already haunted island.  We walked through the cells and spent some time in cell block 14 which is apparently the most haunted cell.  My sister has a paranormal recording app on her phone that she turned on while asking questions.

We explored the rest of the island including the gardens, morgue, prison guard barracks, and yards.  We learned about the famous Al Capone and Machine Gun Kelly and that most of the prison workers lived on the island with their families; their children would take a boat to San Francisco to attend school.  

After returning from the island we went in search of a trolley car which was at the top of my mom’s list of things to do on her trip.  

We got perfect seats and took the trolley from one end of the line (up a wildly steep hill) to the other end while my mom sang the old Rice-a-Roni commercial song where they’re singing “Rice-a-Roni, the San Francisco treat!” while showing people riding a trolley.  

We not only enjoyed the ride itself but also watching the conductor operate this old school trolley car with levers the length of adult humans and a pedal that took all his weight to engage. 

After a wonderful visit I drove them back to the airport.  Through hugs and goodbyes I kept it together until they disappeared through the sliding doors and were out of sight, which is when I cried knowing I won’t see them until I get home for Christmas… unless I can convince my mom to get back on a plane to come see the Grand Canyon with me this fall 😉